VLO v VLP and another appeal

[2] In DCA 39, the Father appeals against the financial matters, arguing that the DJ had overvalued the pool of matrimonial assets, disregarding the sum of $200,000 owed by him to his father for university and his master’s degree tuition fees between 2007 and 2012. In relation to the maintenance for the Mother, the Father argued that there is no proof that the Mother would not be able to secure her own accommodation and job due to her immigration status, and awarding maintenance would only prolong the Mother’s dependency on the Father. As for the maintenance for the Child, the Father asks for a cap on the maintenance so that the Child would not be engaging in too many extracurricular activities.

[3] In DCA 41, the Mother appeals to have the Child relocated to Taiwan, and to have sole care and control of the Child. The Mother’s counsel submitted that the DJ erred in dismissing the relocation application; the DJ erred in placing too much weight on the loss of relationship between the Child and Father in the event of relocation, and failed to consider the uncertainty of the Mother’s immigration status in Singapore.

[7] I turn to the Mother’s appeal. In relocation applications, the court below had considered the various factors and balanced the pros and cons carefully. As always, the welfare of the child is of paramount consideration, and it is especially so in an application as sensitive as that for the relocation of the child. The reasonable desire of the caretaker to relocate to her country of origin are, of course, relevant. It is unrealistic to disregard the well-being of the caretaker and treat it as separate and distinct from the welfare of the child. But that must be balanced against the child’s loss of relationship with the “left-behind” parent: UFZ v UFY [2018] SFHCF 8.

[8] In UYK v UYJ [2020] 5 SLR 772 (“UYK”), the court dismissed the appeal that granted the mother’s relocation application with the child. That was not a case where the child and family had lived in Singapore for many years, and their ties to Singapore were transient. Rejecting that application would have compelled the mother to stay in Singapore permanently with tenuous and uncertain immigration status, whereas there was evidence that the child had spent some time in the United Kingdom and had a life planned out for him there.

[9] That is one instance of how the courts have decided, but each case turns on its own facts. On the facts of this case, I am not persuaded that it would be in the best interest of the Child to relocate him to Taiwan. Unlike UYJ, this is not a case where parties have planned to stay in Singapore temporarily. The Father has been a permanent resident in Singapore since 2015, and purchased, rather than rented, the matrimonial home. After the Mother moved back to Singapore with the Child in August 2018, the Father has facilitated her stay in Singapore by arranging for her accommodation in a rented apartment, finding a pre-school for the Child, ensuring that the Child’s immigration documents were executed. Indeed, the Mother’s own WeChat messages to the Father reveal her intention to return to Singapore with the Child so that the Child can attend schools here, even though the Mother’s relationship with the Father had broken down by then. Further, there is no life planned out for the Child in Taiwan; the Mother has no job there and her current plan is to stay in a rented apartment with the Child. The work that she does in Taiwan as a sales assistant is the same as the work she had as a store manager in Singapore.

[10] Moreover, the Child is well-settled after moving back to Singapore in August 2018; he has started attending pre-school in Singapore and spends his time on weekends with the Father’s. Over the years, the Child’s relationship with the Father has strengthened. Being four years’ old, he could not fully apprehend the implications of him moving back to Taiwan, and believes that he could see his father on weekends. Relocating the child to Taiwan, at this juncture, will result in an irrevocable loss of relationship between the Father and the Child, and I therefore dismiss the Mother’s appeal for the relocation of the Child. For the same reason, I also dismiss the Mother’s appeal to change the care and control arrangement, given that the Child has adjusted to the current arrangement.

[11] I am sympathetic to the Mother’s plight regarding her immigration status in Singapore and her struggle looking for a job. But I have also been informed by counsel that the Mother has a Long-Term Visit Pass based on the Child’s student’s pass, but may not be able to work for the first year because of relevant regulations. However, this is a point the Father needs to understand as well, for he seems to labour under the misapprehension that the Mother has made no attempt at looking for a job. The Mother has applied for certain positions but was rejected, although mostly for reasons other than her immigration status. For the interim until the Mother finds another job, the maintenance from the Father would help with her financial situation. The immigration status issue seems to have been resolved at the moment. But should there be a change of circumstances, the Mother is at liberty to apply.

[12] Acrimony between the parties has increased since the ancillary hearings, which no doubt was exacerbated by the stress of the relocation problem. But what lies before them is clear: either they continue to fight in the courts, a fight that may last longer than their marriage, or they cooperate with each other for the benefit of their child. Good sense will have them choose the latter, bearing in mind their joint responsibility as parents to promote their child’s flourishing.